10:46 29th June 2021 | Infertility - Stress
We all desire to have good things in life.
For some people, one of those good things is having children of their own. When trying to start a family, some may experience a slight delay while others may have to wait a long time. In both situations – waiting is one of the hardest things about the journey.
A parent narrated it this way:
“We waited for test results - then we waited for the stimulation to work. We waited, sleepless, in the middle of the night, wondering if there was something more we could do. We have never felt more powerless.
We attended a meditation seminar, seeking answers–"
“Can you offer anything to help with the difficulty of waiting?” The response - “You will get the answer after the break” but… the answer never came. Even the people who are supposedly trained to help were utterly clueless, treating waiting with waiting.
At another seminar we were told to “Let go of the story - live from moment to moment”. A good but still incomplete attempt at a difficult question.
Waiting for anything requires patience - waiting to be served a meal at a restaurant, waiting to board a plane, or waiting to get that promotion etc.
So how should one wait? Wait with the attitude of patience.
Patience is the key to unlocking that ability to tolerate a delay calmly without letting it affect our emotions, mental state and well-being.
Patience is sweet to have but tough to nurture. However, it can help us persevere without giving up.
A client put it this way:
“The waiting room was our personal nightmare. Sitting there we felt in perpetual limbo. We lost count of the many appointments where we just waited to be summoned.
Somehow our patience grew without us realising. We became more intimate with each other and our love blossomed. We were able to lean on the unwavering support of our network: family, friends, colleagues, clinicians, counsellors and even fellow patients in the waiting room.
Learning to be patient, though tough, helped us learn to live moment to moment, believing that the best was to come and it did! We are now parenting with patience and joy!”.
How can we wait patiently?
Patience is a skill requiring development and mastering.
Waiting patiently is a choice – so we need to:
It also helps to speak with a trained counsellor who can help you navigate the murky waters of your emotions and bring you out to the other more positive side. They can help you develop the skills necessary to cope with your emotions for a calmer and healthier experience.
So… when you must wait - wait patiently.
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By Etang Abang, Head Counsellor
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